A Guide to Dating Asian Men
Dating Asian men has a certain appeal for people of non-Asian descent. Why this is, we simply don’t know. Maybe it is due to the stereotype that all Asians are geniuses or martial artists, or maybe it is simply the intricacies of the mysterious culture that suck us in. –Whatever it is, the result can only be compared to the “mojo effect”. For women, and indeed men, who are especially attracted to the idea of dating Asian men but are uncertain as to how to snag one, we have created this little guide to ease the way.
Encountering the interracial road block
A person’s opinion on interracial dating is largely shaped by their background. Some people are lucky enough to be raised with a very encouraging outlook on people from different cultures dating and even getting married, starting a family, etc. Others, however, are simply taught to “keep it within the culture”, so to speak. Unfortunately, people who have descended from Eastern countries are more likely to retain this preference. This could be one of the reasons why non-Asians have a particularly difficult time snagging an Asian man. Perhaps they were simply raised to prefer women and men of their own cultural background—which is fine. I only bring up this topic because it really does have a significant impact on one’s ability to attract the attentions of Asian men.
Confidence is key
Confidence is an important aspect of attracting a mate, whether one is dating Asian men, Caucasians, African Americans—or anyone else! Sometimes we let insecurities, especially when it comes to dating someone of another race, overwhelm us. This often leads to unconscious withdrawal which is just as good as plastering a sign on one’s head that reads: Off the Market. It’s important that we don’t let stereotypes or others’ negative outlook deter us from getting what we want. Being attracted to a certain race isn’t a sin. It’s not being close-minded. It’s a simple case of chemistry and attraction. One should bear this in mind along with positive reminders of their good qualities and take the shot!
Frequent the right places
Every community is different, therefore it would be inaccurate to say that one is bound to find Asian men at the local anime convention. Although one shouldn’t necessarily rule this one out, it would probably be more productive to scope out the local area and determine where the cultural hotspots are. Whether it’s the mall, a particular coffee shop, or a music venue, there are tons of places to look. One shouldn’t rule anyplace out!
Asian men are still just men
It’s probably best to leave goals (or fantasies, rather) of snagging a Jet Li at the door. It can often be easy to lump men into a collective based off of race, but the truth is that all men are different, even if their cultural background is the same. One man may be a little shy and bookish while another may be outrageously promiscuous and the veritable “bad boy”. Heck, they could even be brothers, yet they are still separate individuals with unique preferences, opinions, and attitudes. Understanding this before leaping out onto the dating scene will save one from embarrassment as well as a lot of dings in the ego.
Dating Asian men isn’t exactly a science. At the end of the day, every person on this Earth is sculpted into their own unique self based off of spiritual, family, and, yes, cultural influences, as well as many other factors. Regardless of an unexplainable attraction to a specific race, it is important that we don’t portray ourselves as cultural hounds and that we express a genuine interest in the person we are trying to attract.